What attracts gay guys
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to disagree homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they create it erotic to watch two vertical men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men peck. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by straight men? Some even prefer direct men over queer men!
Before I earn readers insisting that not all lgbtq+ men are attracted to straight men, let me declare I know that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to accept that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue vertical men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In proof, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male --
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Dude (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay guy I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Lgbtq+ fest parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t act it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a girl before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was evidence the book She Comes First on his
Gay Men Attracted to Masculine Features
Gay men have the strongest sexual attraction to the most masculinized male faces, according to a study recently published online in the journal “Archives of Sexual Behavior.”
Led by Aaron N. Glassenberg, a doctoral student in organizational behavior at the Graduate University of Arts and Sciences and Harvard Business School, the analyze found that facial attraction depends on a person’s gender rather than his or her sexual orientation.
According to the results, same-sex attracted men prefer the most masculine faces and straight men like the most feminine faces.
In contrast, straight women are not necessarily attracted to the most masculinized male faces and lesbians are not always drawn to the most feminized faces, Glassenberg said.
Other research has shown that female preferences are influenced by a mixture of factors including ovulation, contraceptive use, self-esteem, and sex drive, he added.
The fact that homosexual males are attracted to markedly masculine men could mislead people to suspect that their sexuality is most similar to that of heterosexu
Facing your preferences
A unused study from a researcher at Harvard University finds that gay men are most attracted to the most masculine-faced men, while straight men prefer the most feminine-faced women.
The findings suggest that regardless of sexual orientation, men’s brains are wired for attraction to sexually dimorphic faces — those with facial features that are most synonymous with gender.
The analyze is published online in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, and was led by Aaron Glassenberg, while completing his master’s degree in the Department of Psychology at Harvard. Glassenberg is a doctoral student in organizational habit in Harvard’s Faculty of Arts and Sciences and Harvard Business School. Glassenberg’s co-authors are David Feinberg of McMaster University in Ontario, Benedict Jones and Lisa DeBruine of the University of Aberdeen, and Anthony Little of the University of Stirling, both in Scotland.
“Our work showed that gay men start highly masculine male faces to be significantly more attractive than feminine male faces. Also, the types of male faces t